Sometimes you find yourself in the company of people who are not fully disclosing their intentions, or it occurs to you that they bring an undisclosed agenda to the conversation. Another way of saying this is that the person appears to you as “inauthentic.” This tends to evoke resentment in you. You may be drawn to react and point it out to the person.
Living a new language for life and standing in a place of oneness of being, you are present to the silence. Then, a person’s inauthenticity does not mean anything. It stops rattling you. It stops having a grip on you.
Being centered in your commitment to life, you come to realize that this is really between them and God.
It is just all talk, and you can’t hear what they say.
The essence of a person’s being knows. It is a knowing without saying. Whether they say it aloud and come forth inside of that knowing is their choice.
Pointing it out or exposing a person’s inauthenticity is just another way of being self-righteous and brings you back into the default language for life. You would be functioning at the same level as what you are criticizing.
It is not your job as a spiritual person to reveal other people’s inauthenticity. Pointing it out is not going to change anything about what is unfolding in a person’s life. These people are on their own journey, and you can now just let them be.
By letting them be, you are free to be.
ABOUT LOUIS KOSTER
Hi, Louis here, author of the inspiring book “A New Language for Life, Happy No Matter What!” Click here to get a free download of the book. Thanks for checking out my blog posts. If you really want to test your spiritual beliefs, try being a medical doctor in war zones. I’ve been involved as a spiritual teacher, medical doctor and coach in the self-help industry for over 25 years and have developed a number of skills in helping people to awaken to their true nature and live inspired lives. Here Is Who I Am & What I Believe.
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I can’t help LOVING the statement regarding being ‘self righteous’ in pointing out some else’s inauthenticity! Personally I’ve found that peace lies in allowing what is to be exactly that ‘what is’ and respond rather than react self righteously! You are spot on it’s ‘not my job…..and it is their choice’ I particularly appreciated your articulation of this! Many thanks for being deliciously lovingly self expressed!
Salutations
Moira x
Dear Moira, Thank you for your lovely comment to my blog post! You are so accurate that peace lies in allowing for what is, which lets you respond from a place of your true nature, rather than reacting from a point of view. Thank you for being so generous in sharing yourself.
Please share yourself more. Your comments help create a new discourse in what is possible in how to relate and live life.
With love
Louis.
I’m happy for these words of profound truth. I am doing most of what is suggested and I have peace that pass all understanding. I love this and every word is a piece of gem… People are more happier in my life because I stop being self righous. Thanks Louis
Dear Audrey! That is so wonderful to hear! You are truly amazing. Your light shines on your environment and people around you are more happier. That is such delightful news! With love, Louis.
Dr. Louis, hi It is difficult when there is family near you that does not understand where you are coming from, my own family, I know my purpose in life is to help other people, my grandchildren are my loves in my life, I know , there is more in life suppose to do , I I feel like not going anywhere at this time feel like , things are not moving the way want them to do, what can I do at this present time?
Dear Ellen, The most important thing is to listen what is true for you and do what you know your purpose is in life. If you know that your purpose in life is to help other people, then this is what you do. It may not take on the form that you expected, but you can help people and make a difference with people in so many different ways. Start with one little thing that you would like to do, and see where it brings you. Love and light, Louis
Currently I have three people in my life that keep doing things and Kenshin to get a response from me and I’ve learned how to ignore the behavior and smile and just do me. The funny thing is they kind of expected me to be lost without themand Wendy noticed I wasn’t they come back with you are not doing stuff with us anymore, Which cracks me up because I’m just letting them be them and letting me be me. So your words of wisdom are powerful beyond measure.
When one has named and processed another’s inauthenticity it looses it’s power and as you speak, frees oneself of the unattractiveness,…it also allows for more understanding as to why one may have been feeling resistance to interacting in a larger way with the inauthentic person……..and allows one to thank them for showing up in one’s reflection to share this and create an understanding for one and and all ….thank you for the sharing the well-written articles..
Dear Tana, thank you for your very thoughtful comment! You point to a person’s responsibility in experiencing how someone occurs. This is very powerful. Thank you for contributing your very insightful comment. With love, Louis.
Loving the part about ‘letting the person be. It is really their journey their journey in truth.
Dear Gizel,
Thank you for your comment! This insight really gives you the permission to let be and let go.
Welcome to the journey of a new language for life!
I send you my love,
Louis.
Thank you so much for sharing this truth and liberating is from ego. Namaste
Dear Kelley!
Thank you for your lovely response. I am thrilled to hear that this article inspired you!
I send you my love,
Louis.
I happen to read your post just in a time when I am confused about how to behave with an “inauthentic” person. Solutions often come just when we need them . Thanks a lot for sharing this !
Dear Silvia! Thank you for your openness that had you come across my post and allow it to contribute to you. Great to hear that the post made a difference for you! If you want to subscribe to my newsletter, click this link.
With love,
Louis.
Thank you very much for these lessons that are a treasure for me. The only difficulty that I find is to put them into practice. I wish I could because I strongly belief in them. I hope meditation will help me.
Dear Susana,
Thank your for your beautiful comment.
When you have found that center in yourself – which you will reach when you live The Choice and The Insight – you are led into a place of allowing and letting be. This is the place, where you are present to the silence. Then, a person’s inauthenticity does not mean anything. It stops rattling you. It stops having a grip on you.
Practice The Choice and The Insight in your life, and you will experience a new freedom to be!
I love you,
Louis.
Gracias excelente, me gustó mucho el artículo de hoy, en primer lugar por que me sentía mal cuando estaba frente a estas personas que creen que tienen la sabiduría espiritual en sus manos y nadie más tiene la razón. Y me hacían sentir mal, entonces ya se que otros se pueden sentir igual que yo y también ahora se como reaccionar ante esta situación y a estos sentimientos. Gracias Dr Koster
Dr Koster
I sometimes feel I can´t put up with this kind of people, I am nobody to judge them so I have just started to let them be, and I’m sure that it is a way of saying I love you and I accept that you are and you think different from me. Acceptance is wisdom too. Kind regards from Susana
Dear Susana,
I love what you say that “acceptance is wisdom.”
Thank you for your inspiring comment!
With love,
Louis.
Dear Louis,
This is really an extraordinary remark, criticizing has indeed lots of forms. Rather than focusing on someone else’s authenticity, maybe we should try to find ours. How is that possible when we find ourselves “away from home “? …
Dear Alexandra,
Thank you for your comment!
I send you my love,
Louis
Peace and good, may always be with you. A pleasure and great experience to read all that you share. Thank you.
Dear Maria,
Thank you for your kindness and for having the goodness at heart.
Your words touch me and I feel blessed by what you say.
I wish you all the good in the world and may you find fulfillment of your all heart desires
I love you,
Louis.
I’ve always had a hard time believing people are able to influence over my state of mind and now I realize it is me, not being me that has allowed this to happen. To accept I am the one responsible of it and no one else’s fault. To each his own. Thank you, Dr. Koster.
Dear Maria,
Thank you for your generosity of spirit in sharing this new awareness. Your comment is truly inspiring. It reminds me that I am totally responsible for my occurring reality, and blaming others for what I am experiencing is not only futile, but goes against my own true nature. It takes courage to come to this place of awareness, and I am inspired by you sharing yourself.
Thank you!
With love,
Louis.
Hi Dr Koster, Thanks for sharing this awesome and inspiring book. It confirm how much I have grown, I particularly like the fact I no longer look for approval, but whether stand firm in my own opinion and valuation of myself lovingly, without approval from outside sources. What a wonderful feeling.
Dear Diana,
That is so inspiring to hear, Diana!
Congratulations with your enormous accomplishment!
You are now in a place where you can step out, take action and manifest your dreams.
I send you my love,
Louis
I havent read your book, but I am going to read it immediatly,
This is beacuse I read your thoughts today in your daily e mail,
and I agree widely.
Hope to find the peace you talk about!
No es fácil, pero hay que dejar ser a las personas que nos rodean como son, eso es respeto y si los aceptas asi es mas que amor
Thank you. That is the most thing to read. So much energy is put into reacting to life and individuals, taking things personally. Keeping space around us and not closing off our heart, allowing the energy of love and oneness to keep flowing and overflowing is the hope for us all.
Thank you. That is the most freeing thing to read. So much energy is put into reacting to life and individuals, taking things personally. Keeping space around us and not closing off our heart, allowing the energy of love and oneness to keep flowing and overflowing is the hope for us all.
Lesson 7 today was exactly what I needed to hear. “People’s issues are between them and God.” I’m always trying to fix things are send some of my accumulated “wisdom”. ha ha ha Practice, practice, practice. Thanks so much for your clarity. It has really helped me so much. Just having The Choice on my bedroom wall to read day and night is a tremendous support for me to practice A New Language. I tend to get depressed and when I remind myself of these principles, it really helps me. Love and hugs, Jean
Thank you very much for Lesson 7 also. Really helpful
Lovely to hear that, Jan!!!! Thank you for letting me know that this was really helpful for you. With love, Louis.