Sometimes when you find ourselves in a state of noise, it is helpful to remind yourself of the insight that nothing has the inherent capacity to make you happy or unhappy and you realize that people or things don’t “cause” you to be upset. You realize that there is nothing inherent about triggers that upset you.
Bringing this insight to the noise that consumes you is like a pinprick that bursts the bubble of what has a hold on you and keeps you stuck. Suddenly you are thrown back into a place of openness, where you now can take responsibility for your experience of life.
You are thrown back into a place of perspective. You are now observant of the noise, rather than being it. It is in this subtle difference where you find yourself with more of a freedom to be, and you discover what you can take responsibility for.
In this opening of perspective, what may actually get revealed to you are your beliefs and assumptions that you brought to the situation. It may be that you brought a simple expectation to a situation which, you now realize, set you up for an upset. It may have been a comfort that you experienced that got interrupted by an unexpected turn of events. You realize that you may actually have said or done something that was not entirely wholesome.
You are now in a place of openness and readiness to act, where appropriate action comes naturally to you.
You may now decide to offer an apology to someone or express taking responsibility for something that you said or did, or undertake some action that restores the wholeness of your being and your connectedness to life.
You are becoming a person of practical wisdom.
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Sometimes it’s easy to be in the present moment and not be upset. You make a great point, I often bring expectations to situations and then get disappointed when it doesn’t go my way. Sometimes it’s not even a matter of it going my way, just a fairway is good enough for me. However of course life has to throw curveballs and make things difficult. Yesterday, I was super upset because I don’t get holiday pay at my job or any type of PTO even though I work full-time. What infuriated me was the clerks at the office get to get a day off but then me with more experience than them don’t get paid unless i work which isn’t fair. It’s funny that I had vacation time when I was getting paid less at A previous job so I was pretty upset and even though I mentioned it to my supervisor in a text I didn’t even get a response. How is that not supposed to be infuriating and how can one deal with such situations?