When you decide to move away from conversations full of gossip and complaining, you may go through a period of time when you notice that you have nothing to say. This is perfectly all right. You may find yourself attending meetings at work or your usual get-together with the mothers at your child’s school, and you suddenly realize that you don’t know what to say in people’s company.
Sometimes what you don’t say empowers you. You are moving away from “I”-generated conversations that tend to undermine, complain, create self-importance, or worse, self-invalidation and victimhood. You are in the listening stage of learning a new language for life. Don’t be embarrassed or afraid by the silence that you are now present to.
In the silence of the conversation, you now develop a capacity to let people be, and you refrain from any judgment. You do not allow yourself to get hooked in conversations that displace your centeredness.
In the silence of the conversation, you are now developing a capacity to stay centered in a new language for life and generate yourself inside of new conversations that are contributing, elicit interest in something new, are wholesome, or may call forth someone’s passion about something in life.
You are now generating yourself inside of life.
You may stumble a few times, like learning a new language, but you are no longer afraid to practice and make mistakes.
In a new language for life, you generate yourself inside of new conversations.
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Wow! This just hit the nail on the head for me! It’s a relief to read it. I have been struggling to find a reason as to why I feel so disconnected from people. I literally have nothing to say at times. This gives me great food for thought. Thanks Louis, what a gift your writing is.
Fantastic! Nicola! It is perfectly allright to realize that you have nothing to say! When you are able to be with the silence, something may shine through that is worthwhile saying. With love, Louis.
Oh my gosh!!! You are so right. I went for a barbecue on Saturday and was tempted to chip in to a gossip conversation about a guy that left his wife but instead I said long-distance may be challenging and we don’t know what happened in the relationship, but the guy is a good person from my interactions with him; so that ended the gossip in my presence
Perfect ! This explains the limbo I find myself in . Beautifully explained . Thank you
Agree so fantastic!
Well it’s a relief to find birds of the same feather here. Perfect words. I!! Set myself to work to change topics and move on….but how hard it is….it’s such a struggle that I sometimes give up and end up saying things I regret..do I have to avoid certain meetings? I realize sometines people feel uncomfortable with me…they can’t gossip as much as they’d like
Your words are absolutely spot on. It helps me to stay more focused on the targets I want to achieve and spend less time in useless gossips and complains that go round in circles but getting no where like being stuck in a roundabout.