Living a new language for life and always being in a state of serving and giving, you don’t expect an acknowledgment. You don’t expect anything in return. You are not waiting for your generosity of spirit to be reciprocated.
When acknowledgment does occur, it does not occur to you as a way to strengthen the “I,” but as a way to acknowledge the space of being, and as an occasion to celebrate your relationship with them. When acknowledgment does not occur after you went out of your way to support them, you are at peace with it, because you know that they are on their own journey.
In a new language for life, where you are an opening for being, you are generous with people, and you are naturally looking out for occasions to acknowledge people, since that is a way to acknowledge the space of being and gives people a sense of wholeness inside of what they are doing.
Acknowledgment also honors the space of being related and is an opportunity to celebrate life.
A new language for life allows you to be generous inside of your commitment to life. You don’t expect anything in return.
In a new language for life, you are forgiving and gracious towards people for whom acknowledgment does not occur. You are no longer immobilized by the absence of something.
ABOUT LOUIS KOSTER
Hi, Louis here, author of the inspiring book “A New Language for Life, Happy No Matter What!” Click here to get a free download of the book. Thanks for checking out my blog posts. If you really want to test your spiritual beliefs, try being a medical doctor in war zones. I’ve been involved as a spiritual teacher, medical doctor and coach in the self-help industry for over 25 years and have developed a number of skills in helping people to awaken to their true nature and live inspired lives. Here Is Who I am & What I Believe.
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Hello Louis. I have been following you for the last month and really enjoy your way of thought. Your blogs say a lot about how I try to live my life. My problem is this: how can a person stay positive when their surroundings are constantly in a negative state? When you live with someone that always brings you down?
Dear Andrea! How delightful to hear that you are inspired by my way of thought and my blogs say a lot how you try to live your life! Thank you for sharing this with me, which is very inspiring to hear.
“How can a person stay positive when their surroundings are constantly in a negative state?” Your question speaks to the heart of the human struggle, and at the same time speaks to the heart of what it is to be an awakened human being. I hear in your question your well-spirited nature and your commitment to be true to yourself and have a great life. In order to remain true to yourself – no matter what the circumstances of your life are – you will have to undertake something that occurs as counter-intuitive from the place you are looking at and as a first step…. acknowledge the existence of what is occurring, which brings you in a space of allowing and letting be. This means in practicality that when the person you live with says something that “brings you down,” you:
– Don’t argue with it
– Don’t say, “it shouldn’t be”
– Don’t try to change it
– Don’t emote against it
In doing so, you experience what is happening exactly as it is. When you allow for what is occurring, you interrupt the cycle of acting and reacting. It lets you stay in touch with your true nature and you experience things as they are. It also gives you the opportunity to start relating to the other person as their true nature …. which opens up a new possibility and freedom for the relationship.
Hi Louis and thanks for your e-mails which have been inspiring and timely! This one made complete sense as I was just feeling a bit hurt by someone acting this way. Now I am laughing as it reminded me that having that expectation of them means my ‘I’ is at play here. Bless you!
Dear Heather! How lovely to hear from you! I am glad to hear that my emails have been inspiring and timely! Thank you for letting me know that this blog post made complete sense to you! I send you my love, Louis
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I thank you very much for this insightful perspective. Growing up I used to feel like just because someone is related to me they owe me something. As I grew older the harsh reality of life hit me and I realized that most people are selfish; The ironic part is even though they wouldn’t do for you they expect you to go to heaven and hell for them………. Incredulous! However I have come to understand that when I do good for people I use it as a sacrifice to the universe in hopes of getting good back. There’s a Bible verse that says:give and it will come back to you pressed down shaken together, running over. So it’s like planting a seed, if you plant a good seed, you get a good crop and vice versa. I also believe that charity begins at home, so if I don’t have enough I’m not gonna go out of my way to help anyone financially but I’ll see how I can best help them without The decision being denture mental to my own health and well-being. A drowning person cannot save another drowning individual
Hello, thank you for your precious gift of beautiful ideas about new ways we should or could see our relationships. It just happened to me that one of my closest friends who is dying with cancer now stopped appreciating my presence and friendship. Which is very painful for me, but your recent e-book will help me out, I’m convinced of it. It just came at the right time. Thank God and thank you. God bless you!
Dear Irena,
Thank you for your very inspiring comment!
What you write brings tears to my eyes.
You bring the gift of love to your close friend who is dying of cancer by allowing for what is there for you and recognizing that his/her response is not personal.
Thank you for sharing this beautiful truth with me.
You are an amazing person.
God bless,
Louis
I enjoy your messages. They inspire my thoughts.
Thank you, Simi!!!!!
Very helpful thank you. I look forward to your posts
Thank you Isis for your comment.
With lots of love,
Louis.
I enjoy all the comments also I’m an oldie now and still learning,years ago I was hurt badly and just getting to know myself I have a long way to go every day is a lesson to learn
Thank you for sharing
Hi Louis
I love your thoughts and passion to think of others and help others, without an inkling of expectation of anything in return – true love for one another. This is what we are intended to do, as One in Creation. Bless you in your work and life.
Your friend in Cairns.
God bless, Neil