Sometimes when things are working well in your life, in your own business, at work, or in your relationships, the unexpected occurs. How do you respond and avoid being immobilized by what is happening?
When you think things are going well and you settle into the way it is, there is a breakdown the universe throws at you, to see how you handle it. Your sense of permanency is interrupted.
How easy it is to get attached to the way things are!
At some point in my medical practice, a nurse who worked for me for many years made the unexpected announcement that she had decided to retire in a few months. She was a very good nurse, and we worked well as a team. Retirement from her career as a nurse meant that she could explore other avenues in life. Living the possibility of a new language for life, she came to a place where she wanted to choose something other than a forty-plus-year nursing career. Here it was! In my support for her to be great in life and pursue her dreams, she had decided to leave the practice and do something else. I now had to look for another nurse.
When you are standing in the possibility of a new language for life, you stop resisting what is happening, but in fact embrace and fully respect a person’s choice, whatever that choice is. In fact, you could be a person’s champion in supporting him or her to step into a new opening for life.
Are you willing to give up your attachment to the way it is?
When you return to trusting life, you can let go of your attachments to what you are used to and what is working for you. You are present to an incredible sense of peace, knowing that things are going to be all right. You are present to a sense of appreciation for the contribution that the person who was part of your life has been making. You are present to the gift that the person was in your life. You can let go.
In trusting life, you embrace the breakdown, rather than resisting it. You let go of the “I” that is resisting, manipulating towards a different outcome, or “awfulizing” about what is happening. In being free from your attachments, you are now an opening for life, where you take full responsibility for your experience of life. Rather than being stuck with the way it is, you are now present to possibility, and there is now the opportunity to manifest something new in your life.
Living the possibility of a new language for life, you embrace people’s choices.
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Hi, Louis here, author of the inspiring book “A New Language for Life, Happy No Matter What!” Click here to get a free download of the book. Thanks for checking out my blog posts. If you really want to test your spiritual beliefs, try being a medical doctor in war zones. I’ve been involved as a spiritual teacher, medical doctor and coach in the self-help industry for over 25 years and have developed a number of skills in helping people to awaken to their true nature and live inspired lives. Here Is Who I am & What I Believe.
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Ahh, attachments, what a great realisation, to acknowledge them and then understand deeply what it is and does. Could it be that it was taught from when we experience ourselves as a baby.
My first deep experience with attachment to another, was the pain of detaching , that woke me up, I actually felt the etheric cords breaking, back then i did’nt know what was happening. It showed me it isn’t just emotions or thoughts that were attached. Sure takes a while to master the acceptance of what presents to self.
Deep gratitude for your insights
Dear Myaraine, Lovely to hear from you! Thank you for taking the step to write a comment to my blog!
Myaraine, an attachment to the way it is does not need a deep psychological explanation. If it was “taught” to you at a young age, then you are still responsible for assuming it! This search for meaning is just another way of deflecting responsibility. Ultimately you are responsible for your experience of life. It is just comfortable to be attached to the way it is. It is as simple as that! In trusting life, you can let go of your attachments to what you are used to and what is working for you.
In the situation when you think things are going well and you settle into the way it is, and there is a breakdown the universe throws at you, how do you handle it? Your (false) sense of permanency is interrupted!
In trusting life, you embrace the breakdown, rather than resisting it. You let go of the “I” that is invested in the way it is and is resisting and is manipulating towards a different outcome. You stop “awfulizing” about what is happening. In being free from your attachments, you are now an opening for life, where you take full responsibility for your experience of life. Rather than being stuck with the way it is, you are now present to possibility, and there is now the opportunity to manifest something new in your life.
Hi Louis, it’s with humble attude I’m writing a comment. Thanks for your inspiration of letting it be in other words letting go… When I become aware that I was into a relationship that was unhealthy I was move to let be. In the sence that I had to detach and move on. It was hard that I compenplated ending my own life. This would have been my tenth time. But something beautiful happen and as a result I’m here today. The universe knows best and I trust it with all my heart.. Even though I feel scared at times. I have fair and hold on to that as if that’s all needed.
My life is ever changing and I do not love change but change is good.
This brings me to the question.. What if there was no change? Life would be boredom. It’s like taking the beautiful colour from the world or food.. Then nothing will be attractive.(smile) to day life is beautiful in all circumstances … Again it’s a previledge to have you in this part of my journey in life.
With love and gratitude
Maybe the reason I have commitment issues is because at an early age, I learned that nothing and nobody is constant so I’m prepared to leave at any time or do things differently which has helped me to be resourceful and creative. I got separated from everything and everyone I loved so soon so I’ve learned to draw strength from myself and be overly independent
Reading lesson 10 give the answer that probably I already knew. Thank you for everything you do.
Thank you for your lovely and supportive comment.
I send you my love,
I have been working on leaving attachments for a year and every lesson of your book is a precious gift for me! Day by day I discover all the beautiful things I was missing to experience. Now I feel me free and happier! Thank you !!!
Louis, Thank You for lesson 10 insight. It was timely indeed, and confirmed the sense of inner peace and trust i feel as I take my first steps toward a new life, one that is being guided by an internal shift and desire to manifest love in my community, and necessarily requires letting go of my career and perceived security. Something I thought I would never do. A career I have enjoyed yet, the way I show up in the world is changing as I change. This has been a couple of years in the making and I resisted it, hanging on to my career but happy to have engaged in process of change. We are all on a journey and I appreciate your writing about your support for your nurse. It resonates with me. I’m 55 and ready to bring my best in a new way.